So we went back to the audiologists, where we explained the
preliminary diagnosis and they did another hearing test. It was determined that there was fluid in
Max’s ears making it difficult to perform an accurate hearing test. We were told that he would need tubes and
that they would do a hearing test after the surgery. Given the predominance of the use of the
auditory brainstem response (ABR), which is done while a child is sleeping, I
assumed they would do this test while Max was already sedated for the
surgery. We were both surprised when the
doctor informed us after the surgery, that he had planned to do hearing test
during the follow up visit. So we
headed back to the audiologists, where they did a very brief and fairly
inconclusive hearing test, which basically consisted of Max sitting on my lap
while they yelled at each side of his head.
I once again explained to the same doctor that hearing loss is often
associated with Max’s disorder and that I continued to be concerned, but he assured me that he had thought Max's hearing was fine because he had passed his newborn screen, so off we went.
For Max’s 18 month checkup, the pediatrician asked if we still had any concerns with his hearing – I think I practically yelled “YES”. She then referred us to the ECHO clinic in Champaign. So we got an appointment and headed over to the clinic, where they confirmed what I had suspected – MODERATE TO SEVERE HEARING LOSS. However, they still needed to determine what Max could hear, so we made another appointment to come back to Champaign to do an ABR. As I said before, this exam requires that Max be sleeping so yesterday we showed up at the clinic with a VERY tired baby, but of course once they put the nodes on his head and face, there was NO WAY this kiddo was sleeping. In order to get an accurate read, Max would need to be asleep for approximately an hour. Therefore, we would need to make another appointment to determine if the doctor is comfortable sedating him. Then, we would need to make ANOTHER appointment in which they would sedate him and finally complete the ABR.
This was when I broke down.
I lost it – how many more appointments could we handle?? How many more times can one child be sedated
(this will be #5 for Max)?? At this
point, I’ve had concerns about his hearing for a whole year and felt like we
were getting nowhere (at least that’s what I muttered through my tears)!! Turns out that when you freak out, people get
pretty uncomfortable. And when people
get uncomfortable, they will do whatever they can to not have to keep dealing
with you.
After the freak out, they immediately started fitting him for hearing aids. I mean – immediately – she went and got the molding and got to work. She agreed to talk to the doctor about Max’s case and now the doctor has agreed to do the ABR, without an initial consultation appointment. We are getting somewhere. Todd has assured me that I was not “throwing a fit” – I was “advocating for my child” – but I’m going to be honest, “advocating” looks A LOT like “throwing a fit.”
When I think back on the past year and half of Max’s life, it’s not sadness that comes to mind. Or anxiety. Although there has been plenty of both. It’s frustration. Frustration with the doctors not listening to my mother’s intuition telling me something was really wrong with Max. Frustration at my own helplessness as we struggled to figure out what was wrong with Max only to find out how rare it is and how limited the treatments are. And of course, frustration with myself for not knowing what to do in so many of these difficult situations.
But there has also been so much that has come from this
frustration. I’ve met some truly phenomenal people who HAVE
been willing to listen to me and help me
and push me to help myself. I’ve learned
how to better advocate for my child, even if maybe it does mean tears and
raised voices. Todd’s aunt told me when
Max was first admitted into the hospital when he was 2 months old that I am his
advocate and to never be afraid to fight for him. Obviously, sometimes I’ve done that much
better than others, but I can truly say that I am so much stronger than I was 2
years ago.
Prayers for you and your family, God has big plans for this lil guy and he will succeed - Keeping the Faith
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